Self-control, respect for authority, personal integrity these are just a few of the character traits a child must develop to meet the challenges of school, peer groups and society. And developing strong character is a process. When children willfully disobey, parents must discipline them. Tough as it is, no one loves their kids like parents do. And if parents neglect their role, someone else will do the disciplining eventually, and it won €™t be with the same attitude of love (consider the police officer ticketing a teenager who disregards the speed limit or the judge who sentences him to time in jail for drug abuse). One of the best gifts a parent can give a child is respect for authority and an awareness of the tendency to break rules.

Background Information

Journey of No Return
Sometimes as parents, we have a knee-jerk response to our kids as we're barraged by their numerous inquires and desires. Maybe it's time to stop being so negative.

When Not To Discipline
Parents should recognize when they should and shouldn't discipline their children.

When You Feel Like Calling in the SWAT Team
Are your children constantly testing you? This classic parenting advice will help you regain the upper hand.

Questions and Answers

After I spank my child, she usually wants to hug me and make up, but I continue to be cool to her for a few hours. Do you think that is right?
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We'd like to be more unified in our approach, but how do we successfully move from two financial approaches to one?
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How long do you think a child should be allowed to cry after being punished? Is there a limit?
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I have never spanked my 3-year-old because I am afraid it will teach her to hit others and be a violent person. Do you think I am wrong?
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It just seems barbaric to cause pain to a defenseless child. Is it healthy to spank him or her?
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Other Things to Consider

Ten Things Toddlers Wish They Could Tell You
It can do wonders for the frazzled parent to know what's going on in the mind of your little one.

Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Life Applications

Finding the Will to Fight: Disciplining in Spite of Screams and Sobs
No one enjoys following through with discipline but it helps to remember we're conveying critical life lessons. Here are a few practical suggestions for providing loving correction on and off the battlefield.

Food Fight
Don't know how to handle your strong-willed child? Here is some advice that could help.

Just a Little Respect
Here is how to help your child whether she's the disrespected or disrespector.

Shaping Attitudes
These practical suggestions can help shape your child's behavior and character.

Shaping a Child's Will
Parents' actions and reactions are key in teaching submission.

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