Affairs and Marriage

Question and Answer

My marriage seems beyond repair to me. My husband is running around with other women and threatening to divorce me. Is there really any hope for us?

It's difficult to say without knowing the details, but I can tell you this: I've seen dozens of families who were in your fix but are now happy and whole €¦ There was one period of time during which I dealt with 19 different couples where extramarital affairs had either occurred or were seriously threatened. These families are still known to me, and nine of them are apparently happily married 10 years later. Though this percentage may seem low, remember that these were families on the verge of divorce that have now survived intact. Loving toughness played a role in their recovery, although their commitment to the Christian faith was the significant factor. So, yes, hope springs eternal, as well it should.

Let me give you a final word of encouragement. Nothing can seem as fixed but change as rapidly as human emotions. When it comes to romantic endeavors, feelings can turn upside down in a day or two. I've seen husbands or wives who expressed hatred for their spouses, saying, "I never want to see you again," only to fall weeping into the other person's arms some hours later.

Hang tough. God isn't through with you and your husband yet.